In the United States, guys generally don’t notice me.
OH NO, RUN AWAY, SHE’S GOT AN ASS AND THIGHS!
Because they’ve been conditioned by US society to only like girls who look like human coat hangers. Or, if she has an ass, she better be ‘exotic looking’ as well.
Being a blue eyed blonde German-descented girl with an ass in the US? Average.
In South America? Ethereal, other-worldly, exotic, hermosa, linda, preciosa.
So I can relate, to a certain extent, to this article. Since I’ve only dealt with it for the past 9 months and not my entire life, its consequences aren’t quite as ingrained within me and my outlook on life and myself. But let me just say this:
I do not, for one second, feel jealous of the ‘pretty girls’ anymore.
I am SO excited to go back to the United States and become invisible to men again. I am THRILLED. This is not sarcasm.
Since coming to South America, especially Peru, I have stopped wearing pretty clothes and putting on makeup, a thing that I usually love to do, in the hopes that my frumpiness will avoid unwanted attention. I feel extremely uncomfortable while walking down the street because I invariably get a catcall or at least a large handful of unwanted stares. The fact that Peru has one of the highest rates of rape per capita in South America is all I can think about while walking around anywhere after dark.
One time a guy actually did ask me if I was a model. And it was awkward. Of course I’m not a fucking model, look at me, are you blind?
I’ve been told any number of crude things as I walked down the streets, many of which I’m sure I didn’t even understand because my street assaulters don’t speak my first language.
The thing is though, when I did understand what they were saying, and I did call them out on it, they’d get offended. Like, wow what a bitch she doesn’t even know how to take a compliment. Because to them, their abuse of the patriarchal power given to them to dominate me and the public space I’m in in order to feel more powerful and more in control (my hypothesis is that most men who cat call have dicks the size of raisins, thus their need to compensate) is ‘just a compliment’.
Put me the fuck back in Minnesota where my blond hair and blue eyes make me average and boring. I want to be treated like a human being again. Even if that is an average human being. The girl who wrote this article is vain and a bit of a braggart, she says she’d never want to be ‘average’. She doesn’t know how easy we have it, us average girls.
20 days left in Peru.
And I’m really excited about it.
Things I’m excited for:
- mostly the food (BRIE GET IN MY BELLY ALSO MAC AND CHEESE AND REAL PIZZA) okay apparently mostly the cheese
- not getting street harassed on quite the regular basis
It has been a beautifully wonderful 9 months but I am ready to go home. Being away for so long has really made me appreciate my home and also my country. Americans may be kinda fucked up but it’s a dysfunction that I’d grown accustomed to. Every country is fucked up, you just need to find the one whose dysfunction makes you most comfortable.